Some Mommy Rantings

So today, I was sitting here watching the girls play with their barbies and listening to their dialog, and all I can say is wow I need to learn twin. LOL.

On another side note, as a mother, or even father have you ever felt the desire to lead your children by example? I always do, I want my children to do as I say and do. The dilemma I have is that I am currently a stay at home mommy and part time worker for Casey's General store. Now there is NOTHING wrong with either of those, but my dilemma is as follows; I want them to have careers and contribute to society in a good work ethic way. Is this what was ingrained in me when growing up, that is causing this perceived dilemma? Is it because growing up I heard go to college and become somebody that I doubt myself as an example leader for my children. I do think this plays a role, and I hate how it makes me feel. I want my girls to be happy no matter if they are homemakers or lawyers. I never once said growing up I want to be a stay at home mommy, I wanted to be a mommy and many other things on top of it. These constraints are what causes women to choose children or careers. I want both, and I want to find the balance to do both. So I have that conflict to add to my dilemma. Do I let someone else 'raise' my kids in a daycare and get a full time career or just work part time jobs and never feel fulfilled myself? Many women face this dilemma everyday, but men don't seem to have as much of a dilemma. Why is that? Is it because as a society we say men and women are equals, but women are seen as the main 'homemaker', and men as the main 'bread winner'. Our society has tried to get away from those 'old time values' yet we still implement the martial and parental system. Can a mother be the bread winner and the father the homemaker...YES! I am blessed to have a husband who is willing to do the childcare running in the event I get a job in my desired career path. He does laundry, dishes and takes care of our kids when I work, and I do the same while he works. We have a true 50/50 relationship. So when I say I have a dilemma, it was for suspenseful intentions... I chose to stay home and raise our children so they felt love and security, and would follow my example in being caring and learning to put your needs aside for the ones you love, but now they are the ages they need the social interaction of daycare and school and I am ready to follow another path to show them that as girls, and women we can have both options. I am pursuing my career in the social work field. Do I know if I got the job yet? No I don't know, but I applied and put myself out there.

My next rant is homeschooling. I am not for nor against it. What bothers me is when people blame schools for the lack of education. Educators, teachers, etc can only do so much in a school day. We as parents must stay involved in our children's education to make sure they understand what they are learning and completing their work. Too many times I have heard, my child is failing such and such, and I ask why, I get the response I don't know, well duh, did you talk to the teacher, did you ask your kid, hell did you even make sure they did their homework. Now don't take this as ill intended. I am just saying it is our responsibility to make sure our kids are doing okay! Not the teachers, we need to be involved, and if that is the reason to or not to home school then fine. I personally feel the benefit from learning in a class environment will teach our children in more ways than one specifically. I am not against homeschooling, but I am for schooling be it public, private or religious. In either instance we as parents need to make sure we keep involved and not expect others to raise our kids or to teach them morals and ethics, that is our job! When you became a parent your job description read as follows...

You will revoke all rights to having alone time, or personal life not dedicated to your children...to provide love, encouragement, shelter, food, and ANY OTHER DUTIES AS NEEDED!...
IE be involved in your child's life, we need to slow down and remember they are watching us, they are absorbing everything and they need us to show them the right ways to live. Be it with morals, or conflict resolution, or being involved in every single piece of their life!

God Bless and take care... This is just some of my rantings...no feelings bared and I am not going to apologize if you are offended, because as a mother I do what is best for my kids and you should all do what is best for yours! Please remember I respect your opinions and I hope you respect mine.